Monday, August 13, 2007
- life is full of immature boys -
House keeping! Song has been updated. Yes, you think it's Backstreet Boys 'How did I fall in Love with you?' but it's actually the chinese version sung by S.H.E 'Yuan Fang'. Reasonably good, but only because I couldn't find the Bsb one.
Secondly, I've added Edmond to the side bar. His blog site has few updates but the one's he does have are amazingly well written, especially his most recent post. Go check it peepz!
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Well. I had to write this before I lose the mind set. It's already slipping.
I'm thinkin' seesaw. I'm thinking the 'nice bad-guy' versus the 'bad nice-guy'. It's such an interesting topic depending on how you define what 'nice' and 'bad' is.
Initially when I had this discussion, we meant these terms superficially. That is, guys who use such images to charm and impress a girl, and could potentially be a good/bad guy. All in good fun and games, with no such connotations of really getting involved with such guys.
But I think I've had another way of thought about these terms. Why? Because there's this nice bad-guy and bad nice-guy that I am acquainted to. So what we have is Mr. Bad Nice-guy. The general idea was that he was a bad guy. Bad bad guy in every way possible. Hence this constant trying to stay within many arms reach of him. He wasn't bad to me per se, but I just wouldn't go out of my way to invite him to get-togethers, coffees, and other stuff that we'd do (like ktv). And it's not like I can't get along with him though. We get along fine. We can carry interesting conversations and he knows how to be funny. Keeping in mind that I still thought of him as bad.
Meanwhile, on the other end of the see-saw, we have Mr. Nice Bad-guy. He's nice friendly, down-to-earth. Doesn't drink, smoke, club and has a decent physical, spiritual and emotional background. All systems go for initiation of becoming Lisa's friend. *grins* Yeah. Nice right?
Now we begin our conflict. Mr. B has carried this reputation with him, as with Mr. N. They both have reps. What has happened is that Mr. Bad has started to prove himself worthy. That is, in my eyes, I have been misconceived(?). Not only does he talk the talk, he walks the walk. He's becoming nice. But I must discriminate, because of his past reputation, he does not redeem himself so easily. I will not be so naive. But I will give him many kudo's. And like that, he is this 'bad nice-guy' character. Because deep deep (deep) down, he probably is amazingly nice with no intention to harm.
I mean, I'm not saying that nice bad-guys intend to harm. But this nice bad-guy is only bad in my opinion because I didn't like the way I was treated, especially when I was out to befriend this person. I was all for having a buddy ol' pal. But I get these weird 'idon'tevenknowhowtodescribethem' (vibes?), weird somethings. Something you don't give a friend. Maybe he's allowed to do it because we aren't quite buddy-buddy yet. But it's insulting. To me. And it goes against social etiquette. I don't know. So maybe he isn't the bad bad-guy. But he's not really the nice person I made him out to be. Disappointed? Yes, but I'm not at loss. If the Bad nice-guy had the chance to redeem himself, so does the nice bad-guy. He can try to change into the ultimate nice nice-guy! Well, that's like way extreme. It's ok whatever he did to me. I'm just going to put it all behind me.
Don't we just all love the bad nice-guy now? He (almost) redeemed himself!
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So I know I should upload them pictures. They're like, clicks away. But I'll leave it for another post. I'm so blogged out. Had to write 'intellectual comments' on one of my tutes blog post.. gah. I have to write one of them soon. Intellectual. Ha!
Secondly, I've added Edmond to the side bar. His blog site has few updates but the one's he does have are amazingly well written, especially his most recent post. Go check it peepz!
******
Well. I had to write this before I lose the mind set. It's already slipping.
I'm thinkin' seesaw. I'm thinking the 'nice bad-guy' versus the 'bad nice-guy'. It's such an interesting topic depending on how you define what 'nice' and 'bad' is.
Initially when I had this discussion, we meant these terms superficially. That is, guys who use such images to charm and impress a girl, and could potentially be a good/bad guy. All in good fun and games, with no such connotations of really getting involved with such guys.
But I think I've had another way of thought about these terms. Why? Because there's this nice bad-guy and bad nice-guy that I am acquainted to. So what we have is Mr. Bad Nice-guy. The general idea was that he was a bad guy. Bad bad guy in every way possible. Hence this constant trying to stay within many arms reach of him. He wasn't bad to me per se, but I just wouldn't go out of my way to invite him to get-togethers, coffees, and other stuff that we'd do (like ktv). And it's not like I can't get along with him though. We get along fine. We can carry interesting conversations and he knows how to be funny. Keeping in mind that I still thought of him as bad.
Meanwhile, on the other end of the see-saw, we have Mr. Nice Bad-guy. He's nice friendly, down-to-earth. Doesn't drink, smoke, club and has a decent physical, spiritual and emotional background. All systems go for initiation of becoming Lisa's friend. *grins* Yeah. Nice right?
Now we begin our conflict. Mr. B has carried this reputation with him, as with Mr. N. They both have reps. What has happened is that Mr. Bad has started to prove himself worthy. That is, in my eyes, I have been misconceived(?). Not only does he talk the talk, he walks the walk. He's becoming nice. But I must discriminate, because of his past reputation, he does not redeem himself so easily. I will not be so naive. But I will give him many kudo's. And like that, he is this 'bad nice-guy' character. Because deep deep (deep) down, he probably is amazingly nice with no intention to harm.
I mean, I'm not saying that nice bad-guys intend to harm. But this nice bad-guy is only bad in my opinion because I didn't like the way I was treated, especially when I was out to befriend this person. I was all for having a buddy ol' pal. But I get these weird 'idon'tevenknowhowtodescribethem' (vibes?), weird somethings. Something you don't give a friend. Maybe he's allowed to do it because we aren't quite buddy-buddy yet. But it's insulting. To me. And it goes against social etiquette. I don't know. So maybe he isn't the bad bad-guy. But he's not really the nice person I made him out to be. Disappointed? Yes, but I'm not at loss. If the Bad nice-guy had the chance to redeem himself, so does the nice bad-guy. He can try to change into the ultimate nice nice-guy! Well, that's like way extreme. It's ok whatever he did to me. I'm just going to put it all behind me.
Don't we just all love the bad nice-guy now? He (almost) redeemed himself!
******
So I know I should upload them pictures. They're like, clicks away. But I'll leave it for another post. I'm so blogged out. Had to write 'intellectual comments' on one of my tutes blog post.. gah. I have to write one of them soon. Intellectual. Ha!
-{ missing you 8/13/2007 07:28:00 pm }-