Tuesday, June 01, 2010
- ready or not - cascada -
Thinking again...
I'm thinking about how boys and girls can't be friends. It plays on me while the situation dances around me. Boy meets girl, boy likes girl, boy wants girl to be his GIRLFRIEND. So where does he start? By being her friend.
This is when the game starts. We'll play nice and everyone gets 100 points to start with. It's because we're optimistic right? We'll play our best game.
Boy plays nice, caring, concerned and the formula is basically 'friend+something extra'. Depending on the girl and what her stance is, she will need to tread carefully. Because as much as boys want to be big and strong, they also have fragile hearts. The male species are very narrow minded. It isn't a bad thing because their narrow-mindedness means they don't get into stupid 'arguments' that girls get into. Nevertheless, the boy will think two ways; if she is nice to me, it means she likes me. If she isn't, then she doesn't like me. But even if she doesn't, it doesn't mean I have to give up. That's fine, really, to think like that...
...but the underlying problem here is the 'friend+something extra'. Because the boy never really saw her as a friend. He would never care if it weren't for the fact that he likes girl. He would never go the extra mile for girl just 'as a friend'. And maybe he's not in the position to do so and it's hard for boy to smile and say 'hi' to the girl and pretend that everything is OK.
But during the time that the girl thought she had a friend, she has now lost that friend. Sure, at the end of the game, the boy has lost, but who's keeping score?
Because losing a friend means losing the game anyway.
I'm thinking about how boys and girls can't be friends. It plays on me while the situation dances around me. Boy meets girl, boy likes girl, boy wants girl to be his GIRLFRIEND. So where does he start? By being her friend.
This is when the game starts. We'll play nice and everyone gets 100 points to start with. It's because we're optimistic right? We'll play our best game.
Boy plays nice, caring, concerned and the formula is basically 'friend+something extra'. Depending on the girl and what her stance is, she will need to tread carefully. Because as much as boys want to be big and strong, they also have fragile hearts. The male species are very narrow minded. It isn't a bad thing because their narrow-mindedness means they don't get into stupid 'arguments' that girls get into. Nevertheless, the boy will think two ways; if she is nice to me, it means she likes me. If she isn't, then she doesn't like me. But even if she doesn't, it doesn't mean I have to give up. That's fine, really, to think like that...
...but the underlying problem here is the 'friend+something extra'. Because the boy never really saw her as a friend. He would never care if it weren't for the fact that he likes girl. He would never go the extra mile for girl just 'as a friend'. And maybe he's not in the position to do so and it's hard for boy to smile and say 'hi' to the girl and pretend that everything is OK.
But during the time that the girl thought she had a friend, she has now lost that friend. Sure, at the end of the game, the boy has lost, but who's keeping score?
Because losing a friend means losing the game anyway.
-{ missing you 6/01/2010 09:27:00 pm }-