Tuesday, March 20, 2007
- Filial piety -
Who knew that so many of us could really relate to this post?
It seems that recently most of us are getting an ear-bashing from our elders. And maybe ear-bashing is not the right word to use, especially in the context of this post.
It is one of the first virtues of Chinese culture (or Confucian culture you may say) and we fail to carry this out. Filial piety means to - NOT rebel against Them, show respect and support, take care of Them, just to name a few. These are specifically the areas which we have lacked in.
I'm pretty sure, and I hope I speak for everyone that we ARE really decent kids. So why the rebellion? Why must we carry on knowing that it is not for the goodness of our parents? Yes, we do have our reasons, so let's not point out the obvious.
But we do not feel bad for what we do because 1. We did it anyway; and 2. We'll do it again. We're developed with too much free thought and human rights forced into our heads that They can't bash us half to death when we rock up home drunk, 3am in the morning. Instead, they can only, talk and grieve.
But we're ok. We're not fucked up in any sort of way and I think our future is bright. Even though it may not mean wealth and assets. But we'll struggle the human struggle just like everyone else. Why can't They see that? How can we make them see that we are looking ahead, that it's all just a moments fun.
Reality is that they refuse to see it. They're just preparing for the moment when we throw our lives away as ice addicts, marry a useless drunkard/ slut-for-a-wife. They are preparing for the worse. And that is an INSULT to us. And there are two things you can do. Change and be a better child. Or just ignore it and show them later on in life. Both have its perks. Both are two VERY different paths.
My mum's got me convinced that I'm no longer the obedient child I once was. She's sure I'm a 'mei yong de hai zi', ' yi hou bu hui zhao gu fumu de'. That last one, she thinks I won't take care of them in the future and leave them to die.. or some shit like that. More like trying to make me feel bad. But it's MORE like she knows I WILL take care of them and do everything for them because they have given ME everything. See? Preparing herself for the worst.
And I say, whatever. And to be on the safe side, I might lean towards not having children 'cos being a parent is probably hell. And I don't need no bad karma firing back at me.
It seems that recently most of us are getting an ear-bashing from our elders. And maybe ear-bashing is not the right word to use, especially in the context of this post.
It is one of the first virtues of Chinese culture (or Confucian culture you may say) and we fail to carry this out. Filial piety means to - NOT rebel against Them, show respect and support, take care of Them, just to name a few. These are specifically the areas which we have lacked in.
I'm pretty sure, and I hope I speak for everyone that we ARE really decent kids. So why the rebellion? Why must we carry on knowing that it is not for the goodness of our parents? Yes, we do have our reasons, so let's not point out the obvious.
But we do not feel bad for what we do because 1. We did it anyway; and 2. We'll do it again. We're developed with too much free thought and human rights forced into our heads that They can't bash us half to death when we rock up home drunk, 3am in the morning. Instead, they can only, talk and grieve.
But we're ok. We're not fucked up in any sort of way and I think our future is bright. Even though it may not mean wealth and assets. But we'll struggle the human struggle just like everyone else. Why can't They see that? How can we make them see that we are looking ahead, that it's all just a moments fun.
Reality is that they refuse to see it. They're just preparing for the moment when we throw our lives away as ice addicts, marry a useless drunkard/ slut-for-a-wife. They are preparing for the worse. And that is an INSULT to us. And there are two things you can do. Change and be a better child. Or just ignore it and show them later on in life. Both have its perks. Both are two VERY different paths.
My mum's got me convinced that I'm no longer the obedient child I once was. She's sure I'm a 'mei yong de hai zi', ' yi hou bu hui zhao gu fumu de'. That last one, she thinks I won't take care of them in the future and leave them to die.. or some shit like that. More like trying to make me feel bad. But it's MORE like she knows I WILL take care of them and do everything for them because they have given ME everything. See? Preparing herself for the worst.
And I say, whatever. And to be on the safe side, I might lean towards not having children 'cos being a parent is probably hell. And I don't need no bad karma firing back at me.
-{ missing you 3/20/2007 12:13:00 am }-